To All the Reformed Bad Guys who are now 'Good Guys'

Lemme just drop this here.
This is for the men.

Many of you appear so nice and respectable and soft-spoken and gentlemanly.

You seat in the front pew in church; you are a devoted father; loving husband; donate millions to charity; rescue abandoned cats and regularly stop to help blind old ladies cross the street.

Yaaay. What a guy!

But.....you KNOW you weren't always like this.

Some of you spent your youth sowing wild oats. And in the process you probably broke a lot of hearts. You likely had sex with some girls that if you are totally honest with yourself, WAS NOT BY MUTUAL CONSENT. Maybe you drugged some, got some drunk, pressured some, chased them around the bed in the middle of the night because they stayed overnight at your place... it happens in a thousand ways.

I hear many guys talk about 'those days' and their conquests. In their voices I hear wistfulness and boastfulness and nostalgia and even pride. Even among Pastors and other religious folk. Seldom do you meet a guy who expresses remorse for his youthful waywardness or shame for the hurts he caused.
And i wonder how God created men in general.

It's amazing that you would even come across someone you took advantage of, raped, deceived and dumped so many years ago - on Facebook or Twitter or on the street - and you would foolishly attempt to reconnect and be 'friends'. Because in your mind all that was years ago and she should understand that you were just kids... and you are surprised when she wants nothing to do with your obtuse self. Because to you she was just a statistic. But to her you were a life altering horror.

Newsflash:

Those girls you consider as conquests were actually human beings with feelings. They had hopes and dreams and blood flowing in their veins - just like you. Just like your wife and your pretty daughters.

Many of you are "good guys" today.
But the trail of lies, rapes and assaults, torn hymens, 'bets' you made with your friends, illegitimate children, botched abortions, broken hearts and ruined futures you left behind.... you think you can just sweep them under the carpet as 'youthful exuberance'?

No way.

It doesn't matter how much you give as offerings or how many orphanages you build. You can't bribe the cries of the wronged into silence.

Whatever God you claim to worship; whatever religion; it doesn't matter. Make it a point to accept your guilt and make amends when and if possible. It's your moral duty.

If you bump into someone you know you didn't treat right; if you know where they live or work; you should reach out to them and say SORRY. It doesn't matter if it was 50 years ago. A little apology can go a long way.

Just my two cents sha.